When you’re working out a parenting plan with your co-parent, it’s often wise to make it as detailed as possible. This can help you think about how you will navigate all of the various areas of your child’s life.
Of course, you’ll want to work out things related to your child’s school, like whether both of you will receive school emails and calendars as well as communications about your child (like assignments, grades and disciplinary actions). If you’re sharing physical and legal custody, it’s typically best for both parents to receive the same information.
Don’t forget about extracurricular activities. These will change over the years as your child develops different interests and skills. However, they’re a crucial part of a child’s education and upbringing. Parents need to work out how they’ll share or divide responsibility and participation and how they’ll make decisions.
Here are some things you can work out regarding extracurricular activities (both current and future) in your parenting plan. For example, you can stipulate that:
It’s essential to discuss how expenses will be handled. If one parent wants a child to participate in an activity and the other thinks it’s too expensive, can they just pay for all (or most) of it? Taking piano lessons is one level of expense, but training to be a competitive ice skater is another.
It’s also a good idea to address school-related activities in and out of the classroom that requires parental participation. Which one(s) of you will be “room mom/dad,” help out at fundraisers and chaperone field trips, dances and away games, for example?
These are just some things to think about. What you include in your parenting plan will be unique to your child’s interests, the school and your family.